Gabrielle Union opens up in such a raw and real way about her life; sharing her most intimate and complicated life experiences.
“We’re Going To Need More Wine” is a must read and will definitely keep the wine flowing. Her book reads as a group of friends sitting together sharing their secrets in a way that women do in hopes of starting the path to healing.
Her dedication sets the tone of the book.
“I dedicate this book to those who have been humiliated and wanted to hide away forever. To those who have been broken and superglue wasn’t enough to help. To those who have felt frozen in fear and shame. To those who have kept smiling as their throats were closing up. To those who thought they had all the answers but realized they were sorely ignorant. I see you. I gotchu. And to my parents, who I never understood until I became an adult who followed her heart… I’m sorry and I love you. I get it now.”
After reading the dedication the reader knows it only gets better from here. She opens up about being raped and how it forever changed her. She points out that it’s an ongoing journey of healing.
In a somewhat Mary Jane Paul [Being Mary Jane] tone of voice she shifts gears to point out how that in this day and time colorism is so prevalent in the African American community.
“Issues of colorism run so deep in the African American community, but more and more I see it spring up on social media as #teamlightskin versus #teamdarkskin. It’s an age-old-us-against-us oversimplification that boils down to the belief that the lighter your skin tone, the more valuable and worthy you are. The standard of beauty and intelligence that has historically been praised by the oppressor has been adopted by the oppressed.”
She goes on to say that, “We darker girls should not be pitted against our lighter skinned sisters, but our pain at being passed over also shouldn’t be dismissed by people saying, ‘love the skin you’re in.’ “You can love what you see in the mirror, but you can’t self-esteem your way out of the way the world treats you. Not when we are made to feel so unloved and exiled to the other end of the beauty spectrum.”
Truly a must read.
*Erica Van Buren is a multimedia journalist with published work in the St. Louis American, the Riverfront Times, Community News, Independent News and the St. Joseph News Press. For more on Erica Van Buren visit: https://ericavanburen.contently.com/