After juggling work, school, kids and everything else, there’s just one more thing to add to the list; what’s for dinner?
I remember when my husband and I got engaged, I came up with all these unrealistic expectations of what kind of wife I was going to be. Doing so, caused me to set myself up for failure.
One of the things on my “Wife List” the list I created that made me a Great Wife, was to make sure I did all the cooking. Now this is a big one. I mean we have to eat, there’s no getting around that. But to sign myself up as the designated cook for the rest of our lives as husband and wife was silly.
First I asked myself, where did I get this notion of this “Wife List?” Well, it comes from movies, television and the older women in our family. These women were married during a time when the husbands went to work and the women stayed home.
Now, I’m not saying that the previous generation’s ideals of marriage are wrong. I’m saying that marriage isn’t a one size fits all. You have to figure out what works for you. Each couple has to discuss what they expect and need from one another.
I’m not saying I never cook. We compromise. Clearly I didn’t cook this. This was dinner, thanks to the Outback Steakhouse.
However I did make this. Something simple yet tasty.
Bay Bay’s Chicken & Waffles gets the credit for these delicious wings and waffles.
The moral of the story is it’s harmful for couples to put unrealistic expectations on each other. Marriage is hard enough without fighting over how to decide What’s For Dinner?
*All photos taken by Erica Van Buren
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